Men in Love

Many of us have known men who made a 180 degree change in their lives because of a women.  I remember one particular gentleman who was a confirmed bachelor until he was in his mid 50's.

He was good looking, educated and intelligent, articulate, professionally employed man.  He was a great dancer,and opportunities were knocking at his door constantly.  A diverse array of women were always throwing themselves at him.  Some attempted to subtly entice him, some were blatant, some lavished gifts on him - it was an amazing thing to behold.  This man literally had a contingent of women catering to his every want, need, and whim.  Worse of all (to me) many of the women knew about each other and they were in a battle attempting to out do each other in their effort to become his one true love.

One day a women entered a club he normally frequented and stunned him.  Every woman there would have described Phylis as 'older' short, dark complected, plain looking and in need of a new wig.  Floyd saw a goddess.  He saw an aura about her that was simply angelic.  He introduced himself to her and started a small conversation.  Every time one of the girls in the bar attempted to minimize Phyllis Floyd checked them with a quickness. 

It took Floyd several months and a lot of effort to convince Phyllis that he was genuinely attracted to her and wanted to be her man.  Within six months of their first date they were married.  They lived a beautiful and comfortable life.  Floyd never dated another woman although he was seduced a couple of times he shamefully admitted.

Floyd said that Phyllis was the first woman he ever asked out on a date.  From the time he was in grade school girls were always around, wanting to do things for or to him.  By the time he was in college he was a master at simply dating the girl who had the most to offer.  He simply got used to having women cater to him thinking it was his lot in life.  I've seen that same type scenario play out time and time again with men of many shapes, sizes and levels of attractiveness (some were not attractive at all). 

The end result has always been the same - women who throw themselves on a man they want rarely get the man.  When a man falls in love.  Something awakens within him.  No other woman in the universe can hold a candle to the woman he loves - in any way.  He becomes a more super man.  The object of his affection (if she is wise and confident enough to allow herself to be loved unconditionally) becomes one of the most fortunate women in the world.  When a man is in love with a woman, and I mean he truly loves her with his heart and soul.  All she has to do is respect him, and keep being herself and a whole new and  beautiful world will open up to her within the safe security of that relationship.

Ladies, for the sake of all that is holy, lovely, and true..., in the name of every woman in the world who longs to be in a loving and committed relationship...., and for the preservation of mankind:  If you do not want the man who is showering you with his love and affection - let him know early on.  It's better he hurt a little in the beginning rather than grieve for a lifetime.  Also, please stop throwing yourself and your resources on men who are not interested in being with you. 
 Men guard your heart and do not allow your lower head &/or appearances dictate your relationship choices to you.  Leta woman's character and values be the winning elements for you.  When all is said and done, a woman can be taught how to look good and move gracefully.  But, a woman who is morally, ethically, and physically pristine is a rare jewel who will give you a lifetime of respect, pleasure, and comfort.  And, she will be a source of ever flowing pride for you.

In joy,

Andrea