Dating Tip For Men

I really enjoy listening to the Michael Baisden radio program periodically.  Last week there was a discussion about how difficult it is for men to approach women and the feelings that often ensue as a result.  For that reason I want to share with you the absolute best pick up I've ever experienced in my life bar none.

A very nice gentleman I used to work with stopped me after work one day and asked me if I had a minute.  I consented.  Then he said "it's just that, when I'm interested in a woman I like to talk to here and see where her head is and see if there is any compatibility between us before we get into the dating game.

This approach flattered me beyond words.  In that simple statement, 

He told me that he was interested in me and that he didn't want

to break my heart or waste my time. 

It was amazing to me.  He asked me questions about my interest and likes.  I asked him questions about things that were important to me when it comes to dating and relationships.  Nearly an hour into the most amazing conversation I had ever had with a man at that point, he asked me if I would have a problem with us just dating until my kids were grown.  My immediate reply was yes I would, I want to get married and not be in an indefinite dating relationship.  His reply was - well my children are adults and I'm not interested in raising any more kids.   Almost in unison we both responded "I guess that's it".  

He and I remained friends for a very long time.  We never dated each other, but ever since that day  I have held him in the highest esteem for all of the time and potential heart ache he spared me from (Not to mention all of the money I would have invested in trying to dress more stylishly in case our paths crossed at work).

I believe the two dynamics that made that conversation work so well were:

1) We both knew what we wanted, what we each were willing to accept and deal with, and what we weren't willing to accept or deal with.

2) We both appreciated and respected each others right to believe what we wanted to believe and to speak freely.

There is a world of beautiful women out there (I'm referring to inner beauty MORE than external appeal).  I believe that there IS someone perfectly suited for each and every man alive.  Determine what you want in a relationship and be able to communicate that clearly and concisely at any given time.  Know that any woman who does not respect or accept your desires is NOT the one for you. Rejoice and be grateful for all of the time and money you saved.  DON'T STOP LOOKING!

On the other hand, if you find someone who you sync with - let the courting commence. 

In joy,

Andrea