In the process of divorcing my first husband; I knew that I wanted to be married again. I've known quite a few men and women in long standing, solid marriages. So, I knew that that marriages can and do last. One of the common threads I found in all of the couples I've know is that they have a this is it attitude about their mate. They know and accept that things will go wrong and they are both committed to riding waves of trouble and turmoil until they reach blissful shores again. Another common thread is that everyone of them accepts their mate as they are and allows them to be themselves. They do get frustrated with each other at times; but they invariably come back to square one. Essentially, their credo is - You are who you are, I am who I am, when you and I meet in the middle as individuals who are committed to the happiness and well being of the other - it's beautiful!
Here's the summary: Happy marriages are a result of happy individuals who maintain their individuality but bond themselves to another by conscious and deliberate choice.
Peace,
Andrea
3 comments:
So very true. If only more people realise this when starting out.
It sounds very healthy to me. It's when one tries to control another that the problems develop.
I hear and agree with you both. Thanks for the comments.
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